icangetpastthis (original poster member #74602) posted at 4:27 AM on Tuesday, October 21st, 2025
IHS continues after our divorce is final while we sell our marital home 
, which has me wondering - how long was yours?
M = 40 yrs on DDay = May 2017,
In House Separated = May 2024,
Filed For D = March 2025
D = Oct 2025
My DDay: https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums/?tid=665421&AP=1&HL=74602#mid8863521
Remember who you are and what you want
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 5:54 AM on Tuesday, October 21st, 2025
Mine was 6 months, which felt like an eternity. I don't know how people go longer.
I left the house when a place open where I wanted to live (near my DS with grandkids). Plus was that XWH wasn't going to consult a lawyer to discuss abandonment - spoiler alett: he didn't.
I'm so much happier now and have so many knew friends that I would never have had during the M. My advice is to do things for yourself (have dates with you) to have fun and find what you like.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:05 AM on Tuesday, October 21st, 2025
Mine was almost a year and it was a complete living hell. I spent a lot of time avoiding him as much as possible and leaving the house when things got heated or highly uncomfortable for me. We were in separate rooms and I still was raising my kids. We did things with the kids separately. Did not eat together. Usually he came home late so that helped a lot. I still don’t know how I lived through it. I spent a lot of days crying and hysterical. It was not a healthy environment for me or my kids and I’m sorry I put them through that and that they were a part of such a toxic family. Lots of healing since then for myself and my kids. We are all doing well now and life is peaceful at least at my house. The way it should have always been.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
