This has me unsettled (trigger warning inside)
Removed for privacy. Thank you all!
22 comments posted: Friday, December 15th, 2023
When is an action a physical threat?
Separated since July last year and share a child together. Every year previously for ex's bday we rented a cabin, we did this last year and everything was fine and usually was fine in previous years because it was focused on his birthday so his NPD never flared up.
This year he booked this cabin for his birthday, and during a time when I was sad my that my cat died he asked me if I wanted to join to be with DD at the cabin. I said OK. (obviously now I know this was a bad idea)
The final night of the cabin he got extremely drunk, nearly a fifth of bourbon, and his Mr. Hyde came out. I could see the anger in his eyes, the night was just full of misogynistic jabs, rambling conspiracy theories etc. So here's the part I'm really rattled about..
We're around the campfire with an empty chair between us (so not close enough to touch me from sitting position) and he reaches out his hand to do that Darth Vader move where he can choke someone by using the force. I don't remember his exact phrase but it was either like "damn it didn't work" or "wish it worked". I pretended to not know what he was doing. I wrestled with do I leave even though we took my car, would that cause him to get more irate and put me in more danger? Do I call the cops...for what a hand move??
And that's where I'm at...I feel like I need to get him via text to confirm he did this motion but then what...I felt this was serious but what can be done? I'm scared for him being alone with my daughter. What if he gets drunk angry at her?
And yes, I know this was wrong to agree to go on the trip. I always thought my daughter was safer with me around, but this weekend proved I bring out his hate and I guess he envisioned choking me out?
4 comments posted: Friday, September 8th, 2023
Delusional Thinking?
My STBXH has always been a lover of conspiracy theories…flat earth, there’s a firmament, never been to the moon, planets are fake….not just your average Big Foot believer he def goes above and beyond.
I chalked most of it up to his massive ego and needing to believe that HE has all the answers, the smartest man in the room, the rest of us are all "sheep".
So now when we last spoke the other day now he’s saying he’s getting all these random WhatsApp phone calls, followed up by text messages about answer your phone…and the last few times he went to the park he thinks he’s being followed. Like he’s very intent that this person walking their dog was following him, and he’s had it happen 2 other times by different people. he said it could be "gang stalking".
I guess I’m like….anyone else have an ex-spouse like this? At what point does it cross from conspiracy theorist to concerning delusions?
6 comments posted: Tuesday, June 6th, 2023
It's always all about him
I want to scream. I'm so tired of his victim mentality.
WH and I had one car during the marriage, a lease. The lease was set to end April of this year, but due to crazy car market we chose to extend the lease by 6 months on the agreement he would keep the vehicle until October this year and when I moved out I would get my own lease. Which is what I did. I went thru this process (a stressful one) all on my own, and secured a new lease.
Now, his lease is up in 30 days. Of course, drama drama drama. Screaming at me he doesn't have the money for any due at signing amount...I'm not being understanding, I'm the one getting child support, it's so hard for him etc etc. He's also blown through his half of our saving account we split (about $4k) and has no idea how to budget. Yet somehow this is all my fault.
I calmly said I would give him the contact information for the dealership I used so he can see if they can work a deal, or he can contact the financial institution this current lease is thru to see about buying the vehicle at lease end.
I'm just...exhausted. He's raging now and I'll have to see him tomorrow when he gets visitation with our daughter. I hate that he can't keep his life together, and I hate that everytime he fails it's somehow my fault.
Mostly a rant lol, thanks for listening.
11 comments posted: Wednesday, September 14th, 2022
Random Questions for Single Parents
So I currently have an income generating website and toying with the idea of starting another to have another potential income source. Since I'll be a single mom starting next week I figured this may be a good niche for me to try and develop some content for.
If you're a single parent, what types of things would you search for on Google/Pinterest...or what types of things do you like to see content for? Things like:
Activities
Recipes/Things to make with kids
Decorating
Alone time activities (when children are with other parent)
Grocery shopping/budgeting food costs
Just trying to get some ideas for what content I can make to help.
I know for me I've been searching for:
Small space decorating, themed rooms for girls like "unicorn bedroom"
Easy make ahead breakfasts and lunches
Cheap/free kid activities
At home pre-school ideas
7 comments posted: Thursday, June 30th, 2022
Extra Income
In July I'll be on my own again, single mom life with my toddler. I can afford my living expenses, but there won't be much left after that to build an emergency savings or plan for a small vacation once a year.
Anyone find any virtual side business work that brought in some extra $$? Like UpWork, virtual assistant type stuff and have some success?
6 comments posted: Tuesday, April 26th, 2022
Long shot, anyone have a non conventional custody arrangements?
This is probably me just wishful thinking…
The one thing right now that my WH and I have in common is we both love our daughter and want her in our life everyday (she’s 4). The thought of me not seeing her for a weekend or not having her in my care kills me. And also the thought of her not seeing her daddy everyday I know would affect her.
Does anyone have any arrangements such as you and your ex moved close to each other, like rented apartments in same complex? Or something where each parent could see your child everyday even though they reside primarily at one location.
7 comments posted: Wednesday, February 9th, 2022
