Struggling to move on
OK here goes.
I guess it's safe to say this all started end of year in 2021. I felt stuck in my job and decided I wanted to look into a new career path. I Knew this would be difficult as I would need to keep my full time job and have 3 young kids and a husband but was going to do schooling in addition to all of this to eventually begin a new career. My husband was extremely supportive of the idea (I'd be making more money. Of course he would be) so I took on the challenge.
As schooling went on I became more and more exhausted .. my husband started to become less supportive.."you don't have time for me anymore"..
I explained to him that I still loved him and that i was just exhausted and promised things would get back to normal once the schooling was done..
Summer of 2022.. we had booked a camping weekend for my daughter's bday.. I had initially had that Friday off but after changing jobs ended up having to work.. I told him to go ahead camping and I'd meet them there Saturday..
Things seemed off after that weekend..then out of the blue my husband said "i think we should break up"
I asked if there was someone else.. was laughed at as he said no..
I fought.. hard.. this is my family.. everything was so perfect prior to the schooling..
he then admits he kissed a girl while camping the night before I got there.. that he didn't wanna break up but he felt guilty.
I asked if that was all.. if it was all I'd move past it.. we could get through it.. but if I found out later there was more and he lied.. it would be a deal breaker..
He promised no.. that was all that happened.
About 2 weeks later I came home ... things had been going great.
"I gotta tell you something before you find out from someone else"
FUCK..
He then tells me he had sex with this girl that same night..I was completely crushed
All the lies.. the cheating. We have been married 10 years and have 3 beautiful kids together.
We have decided to try and make it work and he SWEARS nothing else has ever happened .. and I truely DO want this to work.
We've done counseling together and apart .. I just find it soooo hard to trust him.. to trust myself cause I believed every single lie..
I wanna forgive.. I wanna move on.. I wanna forget the whole thing. It's just so hard!
12 comments posted: Saturday, February 25th, 2023
Struggling to move on
OK here goes.
I guess it's safe to say this all started end of year in 2021. I felt stuck in my job and decided I wanted to look into a new career path. I Knew this would be difficult as I would need to keep my full time job and have 3 young kids and a husband but was going to do schooling in addition to all of this to eventually begin a new career. My husband was extremely supportive of the idea (I'd be making more money. Of course he would be) so I took on the challenge.
As schooling went on I became more and more exhausted .. my husband started to become less supportive.."you don't have time for me anymore"..
I explained to him that I still loved him and that i was just exhausted and promised things would get back to normal once the schooling was done..
Summer of 2022.. we had booked a camping weekend for my daughter's bday.. I had initially had that Friday off but after changing jobs ended up having to work.. I told him to go ahead camping and I'd meet them there Saturday..
Things seemed off after that weekend..then out of the blue my husband said "i think we should break up"
I asked if there was someone else.. was laughed at as he said no..
I fought.. hard.. this is my family.. everything was so perfect prior to the schooling..
he then admits he kissed a girl while camping the night before I got there.. that he didn't wanna break up but he felt guilty.
I asked if that was all.. if it was all I'd move past it.. we could get through it.. but if I found out later there was more and he lied.. it would be a deal breaker..
He promised no.. that was all that happened.
About 2 weeks later I came home ... things had been going great.
"I gotta tell you something before you find out from someone else"
FUCK..
He then tells me he had sex with this girl that same night..I was completely crushed
All the lies.. the cheating. We have been married 10 years and have 3 beautiful kids together.
We have decided to try and make it work and he SWEARS nothing else has ever happened .. and I truely DO want this to work.
We've done counseling together and apart .. I just find it soooo hard to trust him.. to trust myself cause I believed every single lie..
I wanna forgive.. I wanna move on.. I wanna forget the whole thing. It's just so hard!
0 comment posted: Friday, February 24th, 2023
