Started therapy

3 weeks after dday my mom got diagnosed with als, 3 months after that my dad had a heart attack and died. We spent the next 6 months taking care of my mom, then she died. It was rough and I have been a zombie off and on for years. I have started trauma therapy (I never thought of it as trauma that was for war veterans or something)
My question is can or is it possible to really reconcile with someone who has done such a horrible evil thing? I cant get image of her having sex with another man out of my head. The therapist said its possible but I cant see how yet.I dont think divorce would make it go away or would it?

12 comments posted: Friday, March 22nd, 2024

Revenge affair

Just curious how many people have thought about a revenge affair, I can't imagine how much stress and drama that would cause but it seems like it would be an easy trap to fall into.

50 comments posted: Tuesday, March 19th, 2024

When to give up

My wife confessed to an affair several years ago, we went to counseling which didn't seem to do much, it seemed like it was a standardized format and that was supposed to heal us and I was told not to bring it up anymore and to move on. The problem is that I cant keep thinking about it and I am angry that I feel like I have wasted the best years of my life with this person. The reason I haven't left is this perception everyone including our adult children have that we are marriage role models. I am exhausted and need to do something different. Any advice from people who have struggled with anger for years please tell me how to get past this.

17 comments posted: Wednesday, March 13th, 2024