Can our MC really fix this?

I cheated on my husband 3 times with the same guy at the end of last year. New year came around, and I knew it was done. Something clicked in me and it was like reality hit properly.

I am still trying to come to terms with the person I am, and the destruction i have caused.

My husband is checked out. He is unstable and depressed. His behaviour is now very worrying and obviously I cant connect with him and help him as he won't let me in. He moved out for a bit and just went off the rails. Now he is back in the family home and drinks a lot, stays out late all the time, and generally runs away all the time. Meanwhile, I am really trying. I am doing everything he asks and more. I am trying to be there. Being patient. Listening to endless amounts of abuse and hard feelings. I know that in the long run, if we can get through this, we might be stronger. But this feels like a long way off and hopeful thinking on my part.

I am so worried about him. This is a decline that I started and now I am seeing him crumbling apart.

We started MC (my idea). We both get a lot out of it but my husband is mentally checked out.

Does anyone have any advice about what I can do? I wish I could take back time. I just know we can get through this but our marriage (and family) is slipping away.

Can MC fix this? He says he wants to leave all the time. Could this just be a defence mechanism or does that mean its over?

We have a toddler, who is our whole world. I feel so guilty for doing this to her too.

7 comments posted: Sunday, July 20th, 2025