Boyfriend relived /wished he was having sex with his ex and I can't get over it

Reliving sex with ex

Last year I used my boyfriend's phone to locate mine. When I opened the phone I discovered that he typed in Google that he was dealing with managing his attraction to his ex. I immediately confronted my boyfriend about it and he revealed to me that he went on his ex's Instagram page twice and each time in the moment of looking through her page he was wishing he could f\*\*\* her and was reliving having sex with her. He said the last time he did it he felt guilty and was asking A.I for help so he could stop.

I was very hurt and I cried about it. He begged me not to leave him and promised he will do better. He claimed his ex was emotionally abusive constantly dumping him and their toxic relationship lead to them both cheating on each other.so it makes the whole fact that he was obsessed with her even more traumatizing for me. We had been together for 2 years when he did this!!!! I asked him if it was the sex he had with her or if she did anything particularly special and he told me no, it was the way she looked. Which felt like a knife in my heart. He said he's always had a fetish for Asian women.

(I'm not Asian) He of course said he's very attracted to me and this has nothing to do with me. But I can't help but project it on to myself. I never expected him to never think of her every now and than or never have a sex fantasy. But the obsession to the point of looking her up Is too much for me to deal with. We were doing couples therapy but I cancelled because I came to the realization that how is therapy supposed to make a person not want to fuck their ex?that's all HIM. So now he's in individual therapy. I haven't had any repeated occurrences with his ex a year later but every now and then I remember that at one point he was wishing he could fuck her again and I begin to spiral all over again. I start snapping at him over small things or completely shut down emotionally and want to be left alone.

0 comment posted: Monday, July 27th, 2026

Found out my boyfriend told chatgpt he wanted to cheat on me with his manager

I used my boyfriend's computer to use the artificial intelligence chat for school. Only to find out he was using the artificial intelligence chat to talk about wanting to fuck his manager on the day of last year August 18 2025. For a bit of background story (I accused him for several months prior of having a crush on this manager because he would constantly look at her instagram page,he swore he didn't but than eventually confessed he did have a crush. I told him to stop going on her instagram page as it's disrespectful and he did it one more time resulting in a huge argument where I demanded he delete the whole instagram app or we're done. He complied and deleted the instagam app saying he doesn't want to lose me.) so I discovered the artificial intelligence in their prior conversation back in 2025 told him it was a bad idea to cheat on his girlfriend Then my boyfriend states "I'm just going to do it anyway".The artificial intelligence asked him why does he want to do it. does he know how much devastation it would cause then he says "but she has a big Asian ass" the artificial intelligence then says would he like for it to at least suggest ways for him to not cheat and then he said"yes". What gets me so angry was during the time he asked the artificial intelligence this question we had a huge argument over money and he apologized to me for being wrong that day. When I assume secretly he still felt angry and was debating if he should cheat on me. I confronted my boyfriend about it and he began crying begging me not to leave him for something he wrote back in 2025.he said he was just trolling the app and wanted to see what it would say about him cheating but had no intention on actually cheating on me. He said he took our relationship for granted back than he felt I would always be there no matter what. I said so you thought I'd be there if you cheated? He said no I just thought that if I did stuff like this which isn't as bad as actually going out cheating that you would stick by me and nothing would really happen.so I kicked him out of our home and he went to stay with his moms temporarily. I miss him so badly and he's told me he's learned his lesson. he's swears up and down he wasn't going to physically cheat on me with his coworker/manager. but I don't know if I can believe him after what I've seen from his artificial intelligence conversation. I don't know why it's so hard for me to just leave him after all of this. Because I still love him.

34 comments posted: Saturday, January 31st, 2026