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Hey all wanted to vent abit. It has been a year since Dday and decided to stay with WH. I saw that his former AP looked at my social media page and just out of curiosity I looked on her page and saw she posted a bunch of videos clips in one video of when they were together. She does still has some of pictures of them on her page. I remember last year I told WH about the pics/videos but he didn't say anything back then. So back to the video I mentioned, it's the next day and she deleted it. I don't think I'll tell WH but I thought it was weird and wondering if anyone experienced anything similar.

She’s not getting the message it’s over.

Or she’s trying to mess with your mind by posting these things to see if you are looking at her social
Media.

Or she’s trying to start trouble between you & your H and she hopes you get suspicious, throw him out and he will go running to her.

Whatever it is I suggest that you stop looking at her social media. She is nothing but trouble.

AP posted hundreds of memes on Pinterest about "the one that got away" and "right person, wrong time". Lots of sex stuff, too. My guess is that she put that stuff out there in hopes that my H would creep on her and be stirred to rekindle the relationship, either by his heart or his dick. It's weird, though, because she's married and her board is public. Maybe her H is computer illiterate?

It sucks when someone else is posting lovey shit about YOUR partner. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that. I agree with The1stWife that she's fishing for trouble. Don't bite.

I second the recommendation to block her. I've got AP blocked everywhere to prevent pain shopping and shut her out. Pinterest is weird, though. Blocking only makes it so that they can't message you or pin your things. They can still see your boards unless you make them private, and I don't want everything to be private. Sigh.

I hate that I sometimes look at the AP’s tik tok. She posts a lot about not taking scraps from someone who doesn’t put you first which could be my husband or jr could be her ex-husband. I know it’s not healthy to look but sometimes I can’t help it. I think they do it just to hurt us.

The timing is weird. I suspect it is not a coincidence. I suspect somehow your husband knew what you looked at. Perhaps he checked your browser history. On seeing what you were looking at he informed the AP. I think this is evidence they are still in contact.

Maybe I'm just overly suspicious. You should decide if this was just an amazing coincidence or if there is some way he knew what you looked at.

Are you quite sure these are old videos and not something new/current?

Edited to add that I agree with Lostinmarriage

[This message edited by Attlas at 8:48 AM, Sunday, February 16th]

BH here. Sorry youre facing this.

I have a lot of questions about how committed and engaged your WH is in actual reconciliation and the level of true remorse he has, but first this:

I remember last year I told WH about the pics/videos but he didn't say anything back then. So back to the video I mentioned, it's the next day and she deleted it. I don't think I'll tell WH but I thought it was weird and wondering if anyone experienced anything similar.

The fact that "he didnt say anything" is disturbing. How does he remain silent about that? Hes still hiding things. The fact that she deleted the pics/videos the next day tells me hes in contact with her. Its not weird, its alarming

[This message edited by DobleTraicion at 11:50 AM, Monday, February 17th]

My gut tells me that the oW saw you looked at her SM and then deleted any incriminating evidence.

She’s playing games. And possibly trying to cause trouble.

I agree this doesn’t look good for your husband but I think that it could be damaging if you accuse him or ask him questions about the OW and her SM.

The OW in my case used to post all kinds of crap. Her one post on International Women’s Day was "only a loser stays married to a cheater". 😡😡😡 Aimed at me of course.

I did nothing. Never responded.

What is laughable is that in her view, it’s OK to be cheating with a married man but not okay to reconcile with one.

The day I stopped looking at the OW’s SM was the day my life got better. It’s been years and I no longer care about it. I just hope one day it happens to her / someone who is selfish and uncaring comes along and tries to destroy her marriage.

The timing is weird. I suspect it is not a coincidence. I suspect somehow your husband knew what you looked at. Perhaps he checked your browser history. On seeing what you were looking at he informed the AP. I think this is evidence they are still in contact.

Maybe I'm just overly suspicious. You should decide if this was just an amazing coincidence or if there is some way he knew what you looked at.

I was on my phone when I looked on her social media so I don't think he knows.

Are you quite sure these are old videos and not something new/current?

Edited to add that I agree with Lostinmarriage

I believe most are old, she used the same videos she posted before a long time ago.

The fact that "he didnt say anything" is disturbing. How does he remain silent about that? Hes still hiding things. The fact that she deleted the pics/videos the next day tells me hes in contact with her. Its not weird, its alarming

It did hurt when he never addressed at that that time. I am not going to bother saying anything about it. I believe like the other's said she just trying to cause drama and don't think he's in contact with her. I know time will tell eventually.