Lisanne1996 (original poster new member #69902) posted at 9:17 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2025
He says he isn’t leaving me for the other woman- but I don’t believe that.. He has been involved in a long term affair… With my former bestfriend..
When will I ever get over this anger.. I know it’s best he leaves he takes no responsibility for anything.. He lies as easy as he breathes…
Why do I even care? He hasn’t been nice to me in years… yet I am still so heartbroken…..
SacredSoul33 ( member #83038) posted at 9:29 PM on Wednesday, February 19th, 2025
I'm so sorry that you're hurting.
Girl, channel that anger. Put on your bitch boots and start calling attorneys. STAT. You need to protect yourself from his potential financial shenanigans.
Gasping for air while volunteering to give others CPR is not heroic.
Your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:02 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2025
LIsanne — (((hugs)))
It is so hard when they leave, and yeah, it may be for the AP but who knows.
Mine left to find himself….and found himself with her just a few days later. 
Will you get rid of the rage? Yes you really can. I have. It took some time and some IC for me, but not only do I no longer hate him for this but I also am glad we are not together. Our M seemed good, but there were some rotten things going on that were really bad for me. I just didn’t see them b/c I was naive and in love and conflict avoidant.
Are you in IC? I found online IC helpful. Journaling is helpful. Setting some goals for you can be helpful (finish a book series, run a 5k, get a degree or certificate, join a club….).Also try to recognize what part is missing the habit of him. The comfort of the known. The familiarity. That will fade as you build new memories, habits, and comforts.
And as for him- let the losers have each other. They get what they deserve - cheating cheaters.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:32 AM on Thursday, February 20th, 2025
Good riddance. FTG. When he's gone, and the D is final, THEN you will start to heal. It will take time, but I promise, ine day you'll look back and be so glad he did you the favor of making your life better without him in it anymore! Again, FTG!
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:48 PM on Thursday, February 20th, 2025
Good riddance. FTG. When he's gone, and the D is final, THEN you will start to heal. It will take time, but I promise, ine day you'll look back and be so glad he did you the favor of making your life better without him in it anymore! Again, FTG!
This! Your new life is about to begin without the anchor dragging you down. One day you will look back and be very glad he left. Some of us had to do the leaving ourselves and then have the WS blame us for breaking up the M/family. It truly is a blessing in disguise.
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
