Worriedhusband (original poster member #86850) posted at 2:47 PM on Thursday, February 19th, 2026
Bigger thank you for everything I have been taking my time. It has given me clarity and she has been much more open I have moved past it and I’d say we are in a good place I am not questioning it anymore she has been much more open and she is present again. Maybe im making a mistake maybe not I love her and I realize I had my faults as well and owned it. I want to keep my family together as does she so I will keep moving forward with our reconciliation and trying to be more present myself.
gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 4:47 PM on Saturday, February 21st, 2026
she has been much more open I have moved past it and I’d say we are in a good place I am not questioning it anymore she has been much more open and she is present again
Rugsweeping may seem deliciously comforting in this moment but, as Bigger said, there will come a time of reckoning. It’s your life, and you’re absolutely entitled to learn the hard way.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 6:10 PM on Saturday, February 21st, 2026
I allowed my H’s first affair to be swept under the rug. Never mentioned again. It was over and I was moving forward.
Biggest regret I have had.
It just made it easier to cheat the next time. He learned nothing. He did nothing to assure me he understood the pain he caused.
Second affair - hard 180, kicked him to the curb and I MADE SOME HARD CHOICES. Starting with I stopped being a doormat.
Don’t be me. Don’t make my mistakes too.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
