KarmaCat (original poster new member #85700) posted at 11:38 PM on Thursday, December 25th, 2025
I haven’t posted in a hot minute, but wanted to share the most meaningful gift I received today.
For context we are around 14-15 months since DDay and last month BH had to actually save my life due to a freak surgery complication. This morning after we had opened Christmas presents he handed me a card that read the following:
"Consider this card the gift of life and reconciliation. Seriously I’m very proud of you and look forward to the future. I love you"
I hate that my actions have forced us to be in this position and some days are still as heavy as day one. However, my heart is still full of hope for our future and I’d be lying if I said this didn’t give me butterflies like I was a teenager.
Praying for everyone that is in the same painful position and I’m so sorry to those of you that are struggling today.
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 12:24 PM on Saturday, December 27th, 2025
Karmacat,
"Consider this card the gift of life and reconciliation. Seriously I’m very proud of you and look forward to the future. I love you"
Kudos to your husband for giving you such a precious gift. And kudos to you, for reoconizing and accepting his gift. Best wishes to you both, your future looks bright.
Asterisk
Pippin ( member #66219) posted at 11:34 PM on Saturday, December 27th, 2025
I’m so happy for you KarmaCat, and glad you are alive! The thought crossed my mind - my husband sometimes has vulnerability hangovers, so maybe keep an eye out for that so you can help him. And thank you for your prayers, I join you in praying for all of the members of SI, giving thanks for those who have reconciled or healed, for the healing in progress, and asking for Wisdom and comfort for those who need it.
Him: Shadowfax1
Reconciled for 6 years
Dona nobis pacem
TrainToUnknownDestinatio ( new member #86885) posted at 4:21 PM on Sunday, January 4th, 2026
I love this and I can't wait to be in your shoes. We are still only about 6 weeks from day, but working hard towards R. Some days are great and some days are terrible.
I recently had a similar epiphany in which BH had to step in and be my savior to protect me from my abusive FOO, and that encounter sent me into another episode of deep depression. One where he found me contemplating suicide while taking a shower. He sat with me to make sure I was safe and then crawled in to hold me while I wracked myself in sobs. That level of empathy from him when I don't deserve it so fresh from d-day was eye opening for me. It showed me it's up to me to change and he's ready when I am.
Thanks for your post. I found it inspiring <3
Me: WS
Dday: Nov 20, 2025
Status: Reconciling
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 4:57 PM on Sunday, January 4th, 2026
KarmaCat
YAY!!!
Your perseverance has rewarded you!
I envy your happiness - congratulations - 
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
