Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 1:20 PM on Saturday, January 31st, 2026
You’re right we aren’t getting along, I’m better at doing my own thing now. Or pretending with him! I think the mind set has changed where I’m not bothering him because I don’t care if he walks out the door, that’s the rubbish taking itself out! And he probably thinks I’m still gullible!
My thoughts where to go through the phone any evidence I can find to get a copy and print/email and eventually when I’ve got everything sorted to drop it on him.
I did think about leaving the house and getting another property but I then realised that’s making it easy for him!
Do you think I should go through the phone or leave it?
Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 4:21 AM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
I went through the phone, no calls or texts which have obviously been deleted I think. But her number was unblocked! He still had photos of them, there’s videos he’s clearly sent to her saying he loves her up until last week! I know they are for her cause I’ve not received them
I’ve asked him to leave and he has
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:37 AM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
So sorry miss me. False R is the worst. What’s your next step going to be?
Hang in there. You’re obviously very strong.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 5:08 AM on Sunday, February 1st, 2026
I want to call him and tell him to come home. But I know it’s the wrong decision, he’s hurt me so much.
He’s tried denying that he’s sent the videos, I can’t find evidence that he had sent them but the fact still stands he’s recorded videos hand gesturing I love you. That aren’t for me, claims there for himself but that doesn’t even make sense! Similar videos he’d been sending her. Her number wasn’t blocked either.
I also read the messages he sent his brother which I think hurt the most how he told him he loved the OW but felt guilty for me and the kids. Brother walked out on his wife and kids and set up with his OW. His life’s gone to pot but claims he’s the happiest he’s ever been.
I know deep down he’s no good for me I just need to keep strong, cut contact and try to heal.
