BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:55 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2026
Yeah, it takes time. Sorry you felt that way because of what he said. You ARE beautiful.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
TryingToBeTough (original poster new member #86978) posted at 9:48 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2026
I know I shouldn't be comparing myself to the woman he cheated on me. But I can't help it.
AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2026
We all understand the comparison and have the appropriate tshirt. 🙄
He took the cowards way out.
In the moment of despair, unfortunately you brought it up first (no blame) and he is so gutless-he chose to hurt you more-rather than admit his spineless reasons.
You are lovely and deserve so much more. Your babies are a testament to the trauma that your incredibly strong body endured!
He can f&@k all the way off.
(Hugs)
Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."
3yrsout ( member #50552) posted at 11:00 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2026
My husband said some pretty idiotic stuff at the time of discovery. Like literally head up his ass bullshit. You have to consider the source.
Your spouse doesn’t have enough forethought to know not to stick his penis in other people, much less the ability to understand why he stuck it in other people.
It would be like your mechanic giving you medical advice. Consider the source.
Tell him you couldn’t hear him about your weight because his head was too far up his ass to be audible for speaking.
WTF.
He sounds like a fantastic human.
Ugh. I’m sorry.
Having children changes your soul. Of course it’s going to change your body. Ain’t nothing the same after having kids.
Freaking Beyoncé got cheated on. Please. It’s not about you. It’s about his piss poor coping skills when your world ceased to revolve around his toddler attitude.
I’m sorry. I chose poorly, too.
Ugh. What he said to you is so disgusting.
Find your rage, girl.
TryingToBeTough (original poster new member #86978) posted at 11:13 PM on Wednesday, January 28th, 2026
My husband is honest, I can at least give him that. I keep asking questions, he keeps answering. He's also been digging himself into a even bigger hole. Some things he has admitted:
● My weight is a factor of him cheating on me.
● He said I'm still sexy just not as sexy as before I got pregnant the 2nd time.
● Appearantly my 2nd pregnancy screwed with my looks far more than the 1st pregnancy.
● He said I smell funny when I sweat since my 2nd pregnancy.
● In terms of looks out of 10, he gives me a 7 while the woman he cheated on me gets a 10.
Am I just being cruel to myself at this point asking him all of this ?
He said he loves me, and will try his best to never cheat on me again. He promised that if he ever cheat on me again, he'll tell me like how he told me about this time. He said he doesn't want to keep anything from me.
And yes we're going to do both individual counseling and marriage counseling.
I think we can survive this. In terms of how bad cheating can get, a one time thing then a quick confession is a lesser form.
I'll appreciate if anyone here can tell me if I'm doing anything that is making the situation worse.
