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Thanks everyone for your replies and advice. I appreciate it and am doing my best to take it all in. This is the most horrible thing I have experienced, and I have no idea what to do. I do want to say I am not dedicated to reconciliation. If anything I am moving towards ending my marriage because I do not know if reconciliation is even possible with someone who has been so unfaithful for so long. I have zero trust and respect for her, and doubt that will ever recover. I am not sure how I can continue being married to someone when I really do not know who they are and what they are capable of.
I am really trying to figure out what will happen to my family and life when I decide to leave. I am not sure if I should have left as soon as I found out, or contacted the other guy's wife immediately. I have asked over and over again for more details, for more of the truth, and I get the same vague answers. Glossing over 14 years of infidelity with short confessions. However, there are times when I ask myself if I need to know anymore. The damage is done to an extreme level already. I already feel like moving on with our marriage is an impossibility. I am more concerned with how this is going to affect my kids and my relationship with them. I was blindsided and am incredibly confused. I do not know if I am doing anything correctly here. I do not know what to do or say or feel.
But this is all very helpful and I am absolutely considering everyone's advice. I'm strongly considering contacting the other guy's wife. I have recently reached out to my friend and shared with him what is going on. He is actually in a somewhat similar situation with his wife as well, so we a have our own unfortunate support system going.