Firstcutisthedeepest ( new member #87479) posted at 3:42 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2026
So very sorry for you.
But it’s not your choice it’s a Hobson choice
Your further dilemma is if you are to push very hard with the terms of the divorce which may shake them both to their boots at this time and she came to her senses as it were where could you go she’s already made her choice -if she came back and left breaking her company involvement she would be impossible to live with.
I think you can only pursue a scorched earth outcome in this.
And I think the circumstances re the company were merely a smokescreen
If she was willing to bin you and your family to keep the company and her AP at this point
Once the future was clear for them i fear that yourself and the family were always destined for this same fate
A secure future with her AP was I think her real objective all along when the company became successful
So sorry for you.
hikingout ( member #59504) posted at 4:07 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2026
You are doing the right thing.
She doesn't see any way to preserve herself (professionally? socially?) if she were to drop the company now.
The fact preserving herself still looks like what she needs to do about work rather than her family gives you all the information you need to know right now.
A person in this headspace is not prepared for the rigors that are required for reconciliation. It’s a very difficult process that requires a lot of dedication and focus. Working on myself and keeping my marriage was easily its own full time job with overtime.
I am so sorry because I know how painful this is for you on so many levels. But staying in this paradigm would be so detrimental to you and your children that it would be worse than the alternatives.
WS and BS - Reconciled
Mine 2017
His 2020
NukeZombie ( member #83543) posted at 5:12 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2026
Be on guard after you have the conversation with the kids, Soon2B. I would be honest with them since they are old enough (without the gritty details but do identify your WW's boyfriend to them.) It is not uncommon for Waywards to go off the rails when consequences start raining down on them and they feel backed into a corner. On the flip side, your WW may attempt a Hail Mary to continue in the marriage-- financial inducements, offers of one-sided open marriage for you etc. Be on guard and protect yourself.
