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crisisac (original poster member #18486) posted at 9:08 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
So I don’t know if I believe in Karma exactly, but I have seen a few things that lean me to believing.
My husband treated me awful during pregnancy it’s when I found out of affair etc. recently I found out that husband told AP about me posting here and she would stalk me here apparently. It’s where I wrote all about my pain and struggles at the time of the affair my complicated pregnancy etc. So she definitely knew how the affair was affecting me.
A few years back I end up finding out (it’s a small small world and the medical field is even smaller) how awful she’s doing single pregnant with 2 other children and working and in school with a situation so similar to mine. She wasn’t married but I guess cheating is cheating. One of her pregnancies I saw her in person when she was ready to deliver at the hospital I worked at. I couldn’t believe my eyes. She looked so bad and no partner in sight. I have seen other things. I often wonder why I got a front row seat to this woman’s misery.
HellIsNotHalfFull ( member #83534) posted at 1:19 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
I don’t think it’s karma per se, it’s more like sooner or later if you’re a garbage person who does garbage things, it will catch up with you.
Me mid 40s BH
Her 40s STBX WW
3 year EA 1 year PA.
DDAY 1 Feb 2022. DDAY 2 Jun 2022. DDAY 3/4/5/6/7 July 2024
Nothing but abuse and lies and abuse false R for three years. Divorcing and never looking back.
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 4:20 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
I don't believe in the idea of kharma.
But I do believe that making bad decisions, treating people despicably, and living a reckless, unprincipled life inevitably leads to poor outcomes.
In the case of your OW, my heart breaks for her children.
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
crisisac (original poster member #18486) posted at 4:33 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
I think you guys are right. Being a bad person eventually has to catch up.
I just always hear of karma and made me curious.
Marie82 ( new member #84924) posted at 5:02 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
I want to believe in karma but I don’t know if I do. Too many terrible people seem to live great lives while good people suffer. Not that their lives are actually good, of course, but I just don’t see bad people suffering the same way good people I know have suffered.
While I wish more than anything that bad karma would hit my WH and his AP, I also can’t think of any bad karma that wouldn’t negatively affect my kids, or me. So do I wish bad karma on him if it hurts my kids? I can’t. Which makes it feel inevitable that the people who are terrible will go on to live their best lives while I’m the one who suffers.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:28 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
If you want to dance, you pay The Piper.And sooner or later The Piper will come calling.
However you want to phrase it or call it - it all variation on a theme.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Groot1988 ( member #84337) posted at 9:42 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
I am a huge believer in karma and if you heard me talk you wouldn’t think I was. I still want to go to her house , drag her by her hair and beat the shit out of her and then beat my H ass.
I don’t clearly. I dream about things going wrong in her life , I know what my H did to her really hurt her which doesn’t make me feel good? I mean it’s a double edged sword. It does but then I have to face that he could hurt another person like that and know the whole time he Knew he was.
Back to the question. I found out the OW dad wasn’t doing well and she cried a lot about it to him (during this time my dad had a stroke) he didn’t seem to care at all for me or my dad but was there for her. I recently saw her dad is in a permanent nursing home.
I thought it would make me feel better but idk this situation it doesn’t , I don’t want other people affected by her karma but that isn’t how it works. She has three kids and I’m sure they are affected by it too.
I will say I always want karma to get her but idk , I’m a better person at heart, I wish I wasn’t some days. I don’t think fighting evil with evil wins, I sure wish it did.
Married 5 years (together 11) Four children Me Bs 36Him WH 35- 4 month PA Dday Oct 6- lots of TT final disclosure Jan 16.
"If we walk through hell we might as well hold hands, we should make this a home"- citizen soldier
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 9:51 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
Karma is real. It is expressed in a mathematical principle, therefore has to be true and real.
By doing a bad thing, you raise the overall ratio of bad things to good things in the universe, thereby increasing your chances of bad things happening to you. Just that simple.
WhoRYouNOW ( new member #84995) posted at 11:43 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2024
Karma is a crazy bitch, she only comes after me and usually for shit I haven’t even done yet;). Actually, Karma only works in a fair and just world, if you live in one then I am hopelessly jealous.
Here’s to hoping I do something bad enough to deserve the position that Karma put me in, at least then all of this will be justified.
Me- BH 49- WW/SAHM 46- 23Y M 2 actually good years
4 Amazing Kids- 22M, 19M, 16F and 13F
Multiple DDays and infidelities 9 yr LTA with sons travel Lacrosse Coach and STD, multiple EA’s and PA’s
nomudnolotus ( member #59431) posted at 2:26 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2024
The OW in my sitch lost her job for doing drugs ( a REALLY good job, she will likely never get a job like that again) and had to move far away to a really expensive city to get another one. This was after I outed her to all her facebook friends and family.
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