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Hello friends! Some days are rougher than others and I find in those days I’m looking for something to listen to that will give me hope, encouragement and strength and remind me that I am strong and I can get through this divorce process, especially on days when I learn that my husband is spending money and taking trips with his girlfriend. I listen to Audible all the time and I’m looking for a book that I can listen to that will remind me that I will conquer this, a daily Pep talk. Or is there a meditation or motivational talk on YouTube? I’m looking for anything that can just encourage me and give me the strength I need to get through the rough days because frankly, this sucks ass!!!! Thanks in advance. Wishing you all strength and happiness…

Really sorry you are feeling low girl.

I assume your husband is your Wayward.
You will get through this.

My wife is reading Alexander Lowen that apparently helps to connect with the emotions from the body and she finds it helpful.

I can recommend you physical excercise, even just yoga, but some home exercise lower upper body helps too if it's your thing.
If you do it in the morning just about before breakfast you will feel energized. Greatly.

A lot of the stress you experience can be purged through physical activity and the happy chemicals will help your mood.

Third, do you know diaphragmatic breathing?
Is like breathing with your belly, like a child does, is deep and relaxing, reliefing the cortisol, if you learn it (is natural we change breathing style later in life) you will do automatically.

It makes you feel grounded, present, takes you out of your head and more into your body, now.

And really you have all my sympathy and I am sure all others here are welcoming you to express anything that troubles your emotions.
You will be heard, and is what you need now.

I found using a meditation app like Calm very helpful for me.

Also track his spending- that’s marital dollars.

Back from the storm…
Yes my WAYWARD husband thx I forgot to refer to him as that!
Great advice. I will check out that author. I do yoga almost daily and it has been so helpful. Thanks for reminding me about how much exercise helps with stress. Also thanks for your reassurance and support!

Bearlybreathing…yes I like the Insight timer app too. I do meditation.

Yes, thanks for the reminder on tracking his spending…I do, that’s one thing that adds to my anxiousness!!

Cheaters are so entitled. It’s sickening.

I really enjoy Brene Brown for these kinds of moods. She has been through a lot and talks with empathy and compassion, and she's encouraging without toxic positivity. I think she has stuff on YouTube as well as several books.

Also, I'm here with you in solidarity. I'm in the divorce process, and my STBX (soon-to-be-ex) is dating someone. It's rough waters, but you're not alone. We'll get through it together! Feel free to PM me if you need to vent to someone who understands and is going through similar stuff.

If you understand the STBX’s reasons or motivations, you start to see that the cheaters are the ones who are broken.

Immediately latched on to a new relationship- fear of being alone

Living beyond their means - trying to show they are having a blast — ie running from the pain

Flaunting a new relationship - immaturity at the least — possible midlife crisis too

Now who is the one with issues that need to be addressed.

The first wife…JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR RIGHT NOW. I need to read this over and over to remind myself!
Thank you 🤗