NumbAndBroken ( new member #85446) posted at 10:19 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2025
Hi everyone, I’ve been trying to read through as many of the posts in this thread as possible.
I found out back in November that my H (together for almost 30 years, married for 24 years, 2 adult sons in their 20’s) has had another woman for 21 years.
15 years PA then she moved away - EA via phonecalls and texts the last 6 years.
He’s taken full ownership, said it’s all on him.
Has cut her out of his life.
Doesn’t love the OW but loves me and our sons.
Doesn’t want to be with the OW and will do anything to save our marriage.
Said it was just sex on a plate but that they did "get on".
He’s never taken her anywhere, never bought her anything. Just met for sex and chat.
Said he has completely compartmentalised me and her. Never felt guilty or thought about ending it with her though (which is another concern).
We are currently still living in the same house and talking. He answers any question I put to him (and I’ve asked him absolutely everything).
Anyone else here with an LTA of this length?
It’s the length of time that really bothers me and makes me think that this is too big to recover from.
Even if he is doing everything that’s suggested he do.
Thanks in advance.
Together for 29 years
M for 24 years
2 amazing adult kids ❤️
D-Day: 5 Nov 2024
H had PA for 15 years (and then no physical contact but EA via text and phonecalls for 6 years with same OW)
